Etiquette For The Dogging Exhibitionist
Or as we have heard it described "For Players and Displayers"
Why do we need an etiquette for what is after all a practice on the fringes of legality?
People are keen to stop us having fun;
- The newspapers love to expose people in the scene. Its cheap sensational copy to help them sell their cheap rags.
- The local councils are trying to close dogging sites because of the mess that is often left behind and the damage that some people cause to the surroundings.
- The polices often interrupt events, sometimes because of complaints from the public when people are being to daring, sometimes because people are playing close to schools or youth clubs, sometimes because doggers are playing in a known "Cottaging" area and sometimes because the area is used by prostitutes.
- Some because of religious beliefs who cannot tolerate people enjoying themselves.
Our only response to the above is to behave responsibly, but still have fun.
We have created a set of suggestions which should enable you to be safe, have fun and not cause a public nuisance and draw the wrong kind of attention to your dogging activities.
- Personal Safety: As we suggested in the "Safety When Dogging" section, you should talk to your partner before you go out to play. Define the boundaries on what each of you is allowed to do and not allowed to do.
- Choosing Location: Make sure that you choose a location where you feel comfortable. Visit during daylight to check the proximity of escape routes for your safety. Check it is not overlooked by schools (many hold night classes), churches, clubs and pubs. Unless you want to be watched by big brother, check that there are no security cameras covering the area. Check the cleanliness, if the area is strewn with used condoms and tissues, it is an open invitation to the police to come and check what is going on. Used condoms could also be a sign of use by prostitutes. Check the "Dogging Locations" pages to find recognised dogging areas.
- Directions: If you are arranging to meet people, make sure you have given them clear simple instructions on finding the play area and a means of identifying you when they get there.
- Punctuality: Try to be on time, or call the person you are meeting to tell them you will be late. People are unlikely to hang around in a dogging area to long in case they are being set up.
- Play Box: Create a play kit to take with you. Make sure you keep a supply of things to make you playtime more enjoyable - A Blanket or Travel Rug, A Pillow or Cushion, (stony car parks and the hard metal of cars soon turns fun to discomfort), A Torch to see what's going on, Breath Mints or Spray, Condoms, Lubricants, and then for afterwards, wet wipes and tissues and a garbage bag to take the rubbish home. It is also a good idea to carry a pen and notepad to take details of people you might want to meet again, or do what we do and carry a business card (see picture at bottom of screen) with our details so that we can hand them to people we want to meet again.
- Signalling: If you are meeting for a private tryst, you should agree a signal beforehand. If you are visiting a dogging area for some sex with strangers then you need to signal your availability.
- Flashing your headlights or leaving the inside light on is the accepted signals to let voyeurs you are ready to play and want to be watched.
- Be discrete. Only flash your headlights once, then wait a while before flashing again. Flashing them continuously will look like a distress signal
- To invite the watchers to come closer or join in - roll down the windows.
- Let people know you are having fun. Be enthusiastic, if people can see you are having fun they will enjoy the show, the more they enjoy the show the more you will get off on watching them wank, a win-win for everyone.
- When you have finished having fun, thank the crowd, tell them the show is over, pack up and leave.
- Be in Control: You are "Dogging" for your fun. Don't let anyone, not even your partner push you into doing something you do not want to do.
- If a voyeur is being to pushy, tell them to back off.
- If you or your partner feel uncomfortable or either of you use your safe word, stop the show, apologise to the watchers and pack up.
- If you ever feel in danger, leave immediately, leave your kit behind, just get to safety.
- Replay: If you meet someone that you would like to meet again, exchange email addresses or give them the number of your "Play Phone". Never give out your home telephone number or address until you have got to know the person well.
- Keep Britain Tidy: Make sure that you collect all your litter, bag up all the condoms, wrappers, wet wipes, tissues, etc. and dispose of them in a rubbish bin at the site or when you get home.
- Be Aware: When you leave, make sure you are not followed. Stop off somewhere public for a drink or a burger, or pop into an all night store for 15 minutes. Check the car park for the cars of any of the people involved in your session. If you think you are being followed just drive to a police station, and tell them you think you are being followed.